When you don’t want to admit you need help, you stay stuck. Asking questions to move your business along and asking for help is a good thing. It shows you coming from a place of advancement and moving forward.

When someone asks: What can I do to help you today? You may be surprised if you actually answer the question.

I work with students all the time and many of them give me the deer in the headlights look when I ask this questions and instead they say “I don’t know, I’m so overwhelmed.”

Well, one key to disarming the overwhelm bug from its hold is to acknowledge where you are and where you can use guidance or assistance in your business or life. For example, I learned long ago that it is better to hire someone to help you with tasks that you aren’t good at or don’t know how to do. This is a form of asking for help.

Asking for help does not mean you are helpless. Just the opposite — it means you are strong and know how to get where you want to go and that you get out of your own way.

Something to think about….how often do you ask for help? AND gladly receive it?

I’d love to hear your answers! Drop me a comment and please share this message as it may help someone get unstuck.




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Larry Hochman - April 4, 2013

You know this, because you’re a leader in the industry, VaNessa…

Receiving the help means implementing that which you’ve been given…and BECOMING the person who grows into it. That’s when you’re really in a position to give back.

Love your stuff, Lady! 🙂

Cindy - April 4, 2013

Great post Vanessa, I used to really struggle with this,
Its great to know that true leaders ask for help. Doesn’t
matter what stage you are in.

Debbie Short - April 5, 2013

I’m a BIG believer in asking for help…
You’re right too often people don’t ask and I think yes they are overwhelm, but they are also scared.
Scared that they will ask the ‘wrong’ question and look foolish.
So they do nothing and end up feeling frustrated…Questions should be encouraged!!

Eric D. Greene - April 18, 2013

This is a good reminder for me – I often try to do too much on my own when I should just ask for help! Thanks – Eric

Angela Heske - April 22, 2013

Holy Cow! You always post what I need to hear.
It’s like an invisible slap upside my head.
I was just thinking about texting you or Ken today for some help this week
but was about to talk myself out of it – The head talk:
“I can figure it out myself” scenario..
Thanks so much!!


Farouk - July 5, 2013

What a brilliant way to put it. Perhaps asking for help isn’t too bad after all, but how do you overcome your pride?

Tina Schraier - May 1, 2014


Thank you for being one of those that I can go to help for.
As I write this.. I am keeping the person in mind who does have issues in asking for help … don’t be afraid to ask.
Whatever you may be dealing with.. if you are dealing with something and truly wish to find a solution to move past where you are to get to solution faster.. Seek those more experienced in whatever you are dealing with.
The brightest and most wise of all people who have walked the planet always have and always will have mentors.
They are teachers.. thanks again VaNessa for being one of mine.
There is no dishonor in education.


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