Have you ever noticed anyone in your life that has a sunny disposition, all the time? Have you also noticed that this individual seems to sail through life, as well? Well, perhaps the right mind set is the key to real and lasting happiness. At the end of the day, no matter what happens, we have the power to choose our thoughts about that event. Developing the right mind set will help you reach your goals.

There’s Work Involved

Just like anything else in life that is worth having, developing the right mind set has a little bit of work involved. However, this work is not too painful. It really is a matter of training your brain and resetting it to a program you want to replay over and over again.

You must make an effort everyday to listen to how many times the voice of negativity comes to visit. When you hear that voice of negativity that wants to sabotage your success, keep you safe, and makes you fearful, you must work hard to deflate it.

Give that voice of negativity to set in, look deeply into that thought and see if there is anything useful in it for you. For example, if you are feeling fearful about a new endeavor, listen deeply and see if there is any validity to that fear. If not, then chalk it up to self-sabotaging talk and move forward.

Retrain your Brain

Once you have recognized the negative talk and realize it is not valid, move on to the next step, which is to retrain your brain. Take that thought of, “What if I fail?” and change it to “What if I succeed?” Retraining your brain takes practice every day. The use of positive affirmations is a useful tool in retraining your brain. Although it might feel a bit awkward at first, positive affirmations really do work.

Align Yourself with Success

We all have goals. The difference between those who succeed and those who fail are those who succeed are willing to try. If you are afraid of failure, see how you can turn that around. Maybe failure is a way of learning, but never trying will not equate success.

Align yourself with success by taking on new things. Network in different places, join seminars, take classes to boost your skill set and your confidence. Try something new you have never done before – even if it is public speaking. Set your own self up for success, put yourself in places where you are bound to succeed, and learn to recognize that even if you fail once or twice, the mere fact that you are trying aligns you with success.

Once you have succeed in smaller steps, you will feel more confident to take on more and more eventually reaching those coveted goals.